suddenly i want to write something about the past,maybe it is not aboutsomething happy ,generally speaking,people are good at remembering their sufferring,not the happiness.i am a common man,so what i want to say is also not pleasing.i am from a country family,as most country families,my parents often qurralled about things that cannot be more trivail.that had  begun since i could keep what happened in my head for the first time.i respect my dad with a little fear to him,haha,maybe that can be explained by philosophy saying "the socail structure depends on ecnomical basis ".he had a bad temper,especially when he was young after drinking wine, as a child who didn't know too much about life,i always standed on my mum's side,with my elder sister together.people always say time can work out any problem,but i hadn't seen that happen though the situaiton had lasted for many years.instead,the situation got worse in my junior school,maybe just as my mum said that my dad had a mental illness because of worrying about
my grandpa's health.so she asked us to understand dad.fortunately everything went on well when i finished high school.since then my dad became quite gentle and also quit wine,there is no more large-scale quarrel,which made me feel that i have a happy family now.i had to say the past had a deep influence on me,so when i became to understand most of what an adult does i often told myself,look for a girl you love sincerely,only that can you bypass the cource on which my parent had gone.only that can you and your child get real happiness.